in time

sad · Post by **sad** » Sat Oct 16, 2004 11:42 pm

time heals so they say but im not so sure.How do you repair a great and long standing friendship? I was asked this by a very close friend whos thoughtless words and actions damaged such a friendship.
I didnt know what to say except that there is always hope. That given time the other person would forgive.That without hope life wouldnt be worth living.
To err is human to forgive is divine.Hope my friend doesnt have to wait too long.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 9:11 am

..........when a lovely flame dies, smoke gets in your eyes

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 10:50 am

Sad,

It depends on the circumstances. Was this "injured" friend betrayed? ie did you take her girl/boy friend and betray their trust?

"True" friends in the sense of the word in time I hope would forgive, but a genuine "sorry" is always a good place to start.

Think of a scab.....if you keep dressed properly give it the right attention and leave it alone..it will heal . Picking away at it...it will never heal just fester. But depending o how deep the wound is, there may always be a scar.

Good luck
Kind regards
Piglet

sad · Post by **sad** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 1:27 pm

there was no taking of boy/girlfriend piglet. it wasnt that sort of relationship. from what I know,a stupid game that went just a step too far.was no longer funny.
but my friend is so full of remorse,most importantly that the other person was hurt by it all is. so very sorry and has said so time and again. but think your words are very wise. about letting time do its work,a time for healing..
noone could be more sorry and is finding the pain difficult to bear.
thankyou for your help.
smoke gets in your eyes?its there all the time at the moment

Intrigued · Post by **Intrigued** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 6:50 pm

Interesting. Now why would somebody post that thread on here in the first place? Are they hoping that somebody is looking

digger · Post by **digger** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 8:21 pm

I'm sure it's nothing but a couple of girlie forum members having a little tiff

friend · Post by **friend** » Sun Oct 17, 2004 9:41 pm

Intrigued? My guess is that they (he/she) is hoping that.and Im wondering if "sad" is the person involved and not the friend? either way its a sad message.
I hope the outcome will be a bit happier than it sounds as present.

Realist · Post by **Realist** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 7:21 pm

Some chance if he/she has any wit. To forgive is devine? Since when? Would have thought once bitten twice shy is more apt

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 8:26 pm

Realist?more like miseryia-list!wot a nasty negative attitude. I would like to think in a long friendship and this one sounds a bit more than friendship to me! that there would be some forgiving for old times sake alone. I know I would and I have, even though it was something very bad that occured more than once. Otherwise I could not have moved forward myself.But thats only my humble opinion and the way I am.
You say youre a realist? hope youre happy with that. Ive forgiven my enemies and Im not even a Christian.

falcon · Post by **falcon** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 8:33 pm

Communication is the band aid for all wounds - difficult though when the other party won't communicate...

good luck, sad. Hope things turn out for the better.... otherwise just move on.... life is too short.

Foxylady · Post by **Foxylady** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 9:02 pm

Realist wrote:Some chance if he/she has any wit. To forgive is devine? Since when? Would have thought once bitten twice shy is more apt

just had a look at this one.realist you sound a bitter person.think Falcon has right way of thinking.communication is everything.but it takes 2.
come on whoever you are. make sad a little less sad then we can all wear a smile

tricky · Post by **tricky** » Mon Oct 18, 2004 10:31 pm

To err is human to forgive is ... etc
Time heals most things, and I'm sure that 'Sads' friend didn't mean to upset or hurt her friend, circumstances sometimes cause us to do strange things. Don't worry 'Sad', as we say in the north - 'It will all come out in the wash'

Tricky

Foxylady · Post by **Foxylady** » Tue Oct 19, 2004 11:22 am

Some members here are so nice,kind and give good advice.others,well

lets not dwell on them!
Quote 'Once bitten twice shy'! once bitten.you wanna bite back! dont you?

good luck sad

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 19, 2004 1:54 pm

Hi Sad

I hope you will keep us posted as to whether your "friend" resolves this.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 19, 2004 2:38 pm

2A couple of girlie forum members?"...i reckon it,s osama bin laden and george bush.